My Take On Sadism

Sadism 

I have been wanting to write a post on sadism for some time, and no time like the present to do it.

I feel  a sadist has it harder then a masochistic does, it is look down upon society even more so then that of a masochist   

I feel often when someone hear sadism, they think of horrific humans that commit horrific crimes ageist humanity... and there are such people but to lump it all in one category is bias.

Here is my brake down.

You have your sociopath sadist, who lacks any empathy... who does things for the pure pleasure that he/she seeks for self.

You have sadist that have other mental issues, or low self esteem, they are capable of empathy but lack any self control

Then there are the sadist who are well rounded, they are capable of self control, and are empathetic.

The latter of the three seek the companionship of a willing partner, the latter of the three are capable of compassion and care.

I have heard of true Sadism, I guess it is that compassion and sadism do not go hand in hand... I do not get that way of thinking. I feel as with in life there are varying degrees in how things can be defined. The definition in its self could be seen as vague, but in my opinion it is pretty straight forward.

 sa·dism  

Noun The tendency to derive pleasure, esp. sexual gratification, from inflicting pain, suffering, or humiliation on others. (in general use) Deliberate cruelty. Now nothing is spoken of lack of compassion, or empathy. It bugs me so much because I feel as I read other blogs that a lot of times sadist seem to be to hard on themselves. Compassion can go along with sadistic desires; you can care for the one you hurt as long as you have the consent there is nothing wrong at all with fulfilling the need inside.  Also as a masochistic I need to know that the sadist cares, it makes it all the more magical....all the more passionate and meaningful.    Now I need to feel that way about being a masochist lol