My Thoughts on the "Rape Culture" Argument

I have wrote about rape before, going on a tangent, a nonsense words...but I feel super passionate about this topic, not only as a woman, but as one that unadmitted has had it done to her and as one who has someone near and dear to her raped. Both cases alcohol was involved; in my case drugs were involved as well. I blame myself, I put myself in the predicament, I suffered the consequences  of feeling used, of feeling like a slut, feeling of self loathing. The same for my sister, who after was unable to enjoy sex for four years. I dealt with it by being promiscuous, taking back my power by sleeping with men, and not giving a damn about them as the men that used me, did to me. Did any of the men suffer any consequences for their action NO! They all justified it by believing because we were drunk we were asking for it. We felt guilty because we were drunk, and were deserving of it. Why? because society says so.

When will the blame of the victim stop? When will society stop this assault on women?

Some say because we're women we have to be held at higher standard than men. We must not tempt, tease, we must dress appropriately (though I was, though my sister was). We must not get drunk, we must walk down the street always checking our backs. We must never, ever lead a man on...What is leading a man on? We must not be sexually open. We must be saints, but even saints get raped.

When will the blame of the victim stop? When will society stop this assault on mothers, on sisters, daughters, aunts, grandmas. When?

Now don't get me wrong, there is a responsibility to oneself, but to say I asked for it, to say my sister asked for it, that any women who has suffered rape, or sexually assaulted asked for it, well that is just plain Wrong. The perpetrators are to blame, and the perpetrators need to take responsibility for their action as well. I am tired of taking the responsibility for something I did not ask for, I payed my dues, I suffered the consequences of trusting two men I knew, I did not think they would put me on display, and use me. I blamed myself for too long, and am tired of feeling unworthy because of one night long ago. I did not agree to it. I was incapable of agreeing to anything and they knew that.

When will the blame of the victim stop? When will society stop this assault on women?

Come one, come all and tell me I got what I deserved.

Call me stupid
Call me slut
Call me loose
A whore
I have because that is what society has taught me to believe.

But I will be Damned!! If that is what my daughter ever, ever believe about themselves.

I think we women need to stand tall, and stand up for each other. I think we women need to stop degrading each other. I think we women need to assure each other of our place, of being human. We women are the epitome of strength and we need to remind each other of just that.

We can change society's views, but we need to unite as one, and stop blaming the victims of rape, and sexual assault.

I love this, it is time for change and Scotland gets it. http://www.upworthy.com/oh-so-in-scotland-they-actually-dont-promote-rape-culture?c=ufb1